An open letter to the parents of my future husband

A few weeks into dating your son, I got this nudge to write you a letter. I wanted to say thank you for so many things, but then I felt awkward about it so obviously… that ship sailed.

But now, we’re less than two months out from marriage and I have yet to say thank you for those same very things I wanted to tell you only a few weeks into the relationship. It isn’t a lot, but it’s dear to my heart.

Now I’m not going to say something dumb and cheesy like “thank you for raising the man of my dreams…” because we all know I never dreamed of marrying your son. I had an idea of who I’d be with, and your son wasn’t it. I thought of what his hobbies might be and I had a list of personality traits picked out that, to me, were perfect for who I am. We would mesh and always agree and always get along. He’d be similar to me, and we would just get each other, ya know? I basically knew what I needed. I prayed for that kind of guy to ask me out, take me on dates and marry me. We’d live happily ever after.

God then laughed at me and sent me your son instead, my polar opposite. I mean, we couldn’t be any more different. And even though we had nothing in common but Jesus, on our first date, I heard God whisper to me, “This is him”

God likes to prove you wrong in a big way, like, “That’s a cute idea, but here’s what true joy actually looks like.”

And so now we’re here, and what’s spiraling in my head and heart will hopefully be typed out with some sort of eloquence. I want you to know how much you mean to me, and how you’ve changed my life just by raising your son. Here we go.

Thank you for praying with him. He is such an amazing man, and he is a man of prayer because of how you have always prayed. He loves telling me about how you both used to pray, or the things you’d always say. He remembers so much from praying constantly over the years with you, and he carried that same desire into manhood. We pray before every meal, on the phone before we say goodnight, and anytime I need prayer throughout the day, I know he’s eager to meet that need. It really is my favorite part of the goodnight phone call. His presence in my life has grown my prayer life in so many ways. I truly believe that it’s because of how you’ve both covered him in prayer his entire life. Thank you for being parents of prayer, who trust God with your children, His sweet children.

Thank you for being there consistently. Thank you for never ceasing to make sure he knew you were his number one fans. You never gave up on him. You’ve instilled in him a trust that’s unshakeable. He counts on you. Thank you for that.

Thank you for teaching him how to give at a young age, how to budget, and how to do laundry. Thank you for teaching him how important it is to always open the door for a woman, to respect women for who they are and not for what they look like. Thank you for sending him to college, and fueling his ambitions with school and sports. Thank you for teaching him how to properly clean. (but forreal though, THANK YOU for that)

Thank you for using those cute little journals to communicate. I remember the first time he brought me over to your house, and he took me upstairs to show me his old room. He then started digging in this drawer and pulled out this journal. “Look, my mom, dad, and Christine would write me notes in this from time to time. We all had one and we would just write to each other.” He flipped through it and read me alot of the notes, and my heart basically melted on the floor. How sweet is this?!

At that moment, I knew this was a family I wanted to be a part of. And I get it, you’ve messed up and made mistakes. But by the grace of God you raised a son who fears the Lord and loves his family.

You did it.

You surrendered your sons life in the hands of the Lord, and he knows that. He knows you’re fulfilling your calling, that you’re obeying God’s will. He admires you for that, and he aspires to raise his own children the way you raised him. He loved growing up with you by his side. He wouldn’t be the man he is today if it hadn’t been for your love and support.

Thank you for teaching him to love like Christ. He loves me so well, and he strives to love the both of you well. He was loved so well as a child, and I can’t wait to see how he loves as a father.

He watches your lives, and how you work through the storms. He absorbs everything you teach him, and he’s done that his entire life. So much of what he does now is because of how you did it when he was a kid, even down to how he folds a blanket and tosses it over the couch. He leads me so well because you led him so well, and I can’t thank you enough for how you chose to raise him. You’ve influenced him in so many ways, and I thank God everyday your biggest influence was how you love God. Yea, he watched that one closely. And even though he might’ve strayed a little from the path you wanted for him, he still came back. He knew you would still love him, that you would forgive him, and that you would lead him back to Jesus. You’ve given him the greatest gift a parent can give to their child.

You gave him Jesus.

Your son is such a gift to me, so lastly, thank you for allowing me to marry your son. I promise to cherish him for the rest of my life.

Sincerely,                                                                                                                                    Your Son’s Future Bride

Oh and also, thanks for having a daughter my age. I love you Christine/futureseester4lyfe!


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